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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2021 18:01:02 GMT
I was very shy in my confirmation class with four girls and one boy. I wish we could have gotten excited about something besides video games or school or the drugery of work.
Something like "Let's all take a pledge to remain virgin pure" and "let's be teetotalers", because it's very common for teenagers to get kicked out of the house and mess up their lives.
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Post by homeschooldad on Sept 13, 2021 18:22:46 GMT
I was very shy in my confirmation class with four girls and one boy. I wish we could have gotten excited about something besides video games or school or the drugery of work. Something like "Let's all take a pledge to remain virgin pure" and "let's be teetotalers", because it's very common for teenagers to get kicked out of the house and mess up their lives. If you find a way to get a youngster these days to "get excited" about something other than video games, please let me know. My son could use it.
I have already warned my son of the dangers of premarital sex and of drinking alcohol to excess, and I hope he is listening. I have told him, that he could go a whole lifetime without drinking alcohol, and he wouldn't miss a thing worth having. I probably don't take a dozen drinks of any kind of alcohol in the space of a year --- I keep it (beer, wine, spirits) but seldom partake. It's just not part of my life. Once in awhile I will have a beer with a cheeseburger, or a glass of wine with red-gravy pasta, but that's about it.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 13, 2021 18:29:27 GMT
While young people like my sister really like herbivore vegan living. I can spend hours on tiktok watching how vegan meals are prepared and deserts presented, it's like a science.
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Post by katy777 on Sept 23, 2021 0:25:58 GMT
Yes Kids are like sponges. They absorb everything you do.
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Post by katy777 on Oct 9, 2021 14:17:57 GMT
 There are also a Baltimore Catechism from St. Joseph press for little ones as well as Saint books, books on mass etc. |
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Post by homeschooldad on Oct 9, 2021 21:05:57 GMT
View AttachmentThere are also a Baltimore Catechism from St. Joseph press for little ones as well as Saint books, books on mass etc. Bravo for you!
We used Father Bennet's Baltimore Catechism #2 in Grade 6, after I discovered that my son had come out of a diocesan Catholic day school (Grades K-5) knowing very little indeed. That was a year's worth of damage control to make up for neglect --- it's not that he was really taught error, he was just missing so much truth. It took until Grade 5 for him even to have a Catholic homeroom teacher --- how messed up is that? "Who was Catholic and who was not" was treated as "the question you don't ask", and I'm at loggerheads if I can understand how a teacher can convey truths such as devotion to the Blessed Mother, fidelity to the papacy and magisterium, the Catholic Church as the one true church, and the Real Presence if they don't believe in it themselves. Strictly secular subjects such as math, PE, computer science, and so on, fine. Subjects that touch on the Faith (even science and music), hard to understand.
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Post by katy777 on Oct 9, 2021 21:47:41 GMT
Yes, thank you homeschooldad I think if you leave all religion instruction these days to the school or sub par cc'd teachers, your child will suffer. Children LOVE these books. Especially when you are there to either read to them or answer questions. |
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Post by homeschooldad on Oct 9, 2021 22:08:25 GMT
Yes, thank you homeschooldad I think if you leave all religion instruction these days to the school or sub par cc'd teachers, your child will suffer. Children LOVE these books. Especially when you are there to either read to them or answer questions. We don't do CCD. All religious instruction takes place entirely within the home. |
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Post by katy777 on Oct 9, 2021 22:08:47 GMT
I also had a sad with experience that cut me deeply because I got caught up in all the hoo-haw.
My daughter was supposed to have a large confirmation party.i printed the invites with rsvp equal to those of a wedding.
I reserved a hall. I bought crystal butterfly's as a gift to signify change for guests with ribbon of her saint.
My daughter told me I never once made reference to the holiness of the Confirmation. The party was day after, and only 1 guest showed for confirmation mass, my son's girlfriend.
Because of Covid I had to send regrets to everyone. My daughter told if I go overboard with the sacrament of marriage, she will be offended.
It's a sacrament and Holy. Yes. It's true.
This is what her Catechism taught her and school.
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Post by homeschooldad on Oct 9, 2021 22:44:09 GMT
I also had a sad with experience that cut me deeply because I got caught up in all the hoo-haw. My daughter was supposed to have a large confirmation party.i printed the invites with rsvp equal to those of a wedding. I reserved a hall. I bought crystal butterfly's as a gift to signify change for guests with ribbon of her saint. My daughter told me I never once made reference to the holiness of the Confirmation. The party was day after, and only 1 guest showed for confirmation mass, my son's girlfriend. Because of Covid I had to send regrets to everyone. My daughter told if I go overboard with the sacrament of marriage, she will be offended. It's a sacrament and Holy. Yes. It's true. This is what her Catechism taught her and school.
My son is not quite ready to make that commitment. It will happen when it happens. I shall teach him the information, but the decision is up to him. There is also spiritual formation that can't be reduced merely to giving assent of faith and intellect to a body of information.
If we chrismated at infant baptisms, as Eastern Christians do, that would be one thing, but I do not think this sacrament should be forced. In the Western Church, it is an obligation that one assumes after the age of reason. If for some reason a person doesn't want to do it, good as it is to be confirmed, salvation doesn't hinge upon it. Confirmation is, however, mandated prior to marriage, as well as receiving holy orders. WRT the former, not sure what the reasoning is there, but that's just the Church's discipline.
I'd like to see him be confirmed, but that is his decision, not mine. I know that in high school religion classes, it is just a matter of course, that every Catholic student in those classes is to be confirmed at a specific time, but if I were the priest, and if a pupil came to me and said "I'm not ready to do this yet", I'd tell them, that is fine, you really do need this sacrament, you need the gifts of the Holy Spirit, but that's your choice, you do not sin by saying "not just right now", be at peace, and when you're ready, let me know and I'll make it happen some way. I'd like to see parish priests be given faculties to administer confirmation privately in such cases.
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Post by katy777 on Oct 9, 2021 23:14:37 GMT
Yes, homeschooldad, it is your son's Decision. It should not be forced. I know you educate your son on all aspects of the faith. |
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Post by katy777 on Oct 14, 2021 18:58:04 GMT
Yes and my daughter told me in no uncertain terms that it hurt her because I was wrapped up in party planning, not the sacrament.
Note to self for weddings for my kids.
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