Post by farronwolf on Oct 18, 2022 4:17:27 GMT
I am usually not one to put out requests like this, but today was a really bad day.
In addition to being the deadline for filing tax returns with extensions, I got a text from my sister who is currently in town caring for my mother who will be 97 in March. Mom was having a very bad morning. Some time after 2 pm. I got another text of I need you now. So I grabbed my phone and drove in excess of the speed limit across town to get there.
Mom was pretty much unresponsive and sitting in her walker. Sister had managed to get her to that point. I proceeded to put mom back into bed and get her comfortable.
We had to wait another couple of hours for the hospice social worker and nurse to show up to do their assessment. With a lot of jumping through hoops and what not, we were able to get mom a room at a skilled nursing facility for respite care. It doesn't look like mom will be returning to her duplex. I was able to transport mom and get her checked in sometime after 7 pm.
For the past nearly 2 years since mom broke her hip, 5 of my sisters who are retired have been rotating care and staying with mom. They are no longer able to give her proper care, so skilled nursing is really our only option at this point. Mom was able to rehab really well and has had almost 2 years of mobility and good quality time with her family. Her dementia has steadily progressed but has allowed her to recognize some of her family up until now.
The sister who is doing the care giving right now is questioning whether or not she made the right call, and whether or not other siblings will question her inability to care for mom. I told her, it was time. As one of the 3 trustees, I assured her if anyone raises any concerns, it will be shut down promptly. She is still beside herself, thinking somehow she bears some burden.
After going back to the office to send the returns in before the midnight deadline, my wife and I stopped back by to check on the sister and reassure her this is the right decision. I am sure she will have a hard time tonight being in the duplex alone.
Hopefully conflicts will not arise over this decision between the 11 of us siblings, but sorry to say with 8 girls, there is always some tension.
Anyway, sorry for the rambling, but now begins the really difficult time of having an aged parent. I only pray that the remaining time we have with her is a decent quality of life for her and there is not any period of prolonged suffering.
Thank you.
In addition to being the deadline for filing tax returns with extensions, I got a text from my sister who is currently in town caring for my mother who will be 97 in March. Mom was having a very bad morning. Some time after 2 pm. I got another text of I need you now. So I grabbed my phone and drove in excess of the speed limit across town to get there.
Mom was pretty much unresponsive and sitting in her walker. Sister had managed to get her to that point. I proceeded to put mom back into bed and get her comfortable.
We had to wait another couple of hours for the hospice social worker and nurse to show up to do their assessment. With a lot of jumping through hoops and what not, we were able to get mom a room at a skilled nursing facility for respite care. It doesn't look like mom will be returning to her duplex. I was able to transport mom and get her checked in sometime after 7 pm.
For the past nearly 2 years since mom broke her hip, 5 of my sisters who are retired have been rotating care and staying with mom. They are no longer able to give her proper care, so skilled nursing is really our only option at this point. Mom was able to rehab really well and has had almost 2 years of mobility and good quality time with her family. Her dementia has steadily progressed but has allowed her to recognize some of her family up until now.
The sister who is doing the care giving right now is questioning whether or not she made the right call, and whether or not other siblings will question her inability to care for mom. I told her, it was time. As one of the 3 trustees, I assured her if anyone raises any concerns, it will be shut down promptly. She is still beside herself, thinking somehow she bears some burden.
After going back to the office to send the returns in before the midnight deadline, my wife and I stopped back by to check on the sister and reassure her this is the right decision. I am sure she will have a hard time tonight being in the duplex alone.
Hopefully conflicts will not arise over this decision between the 11 of us siblings, but sorry to say with 8 girls, there is always some tension.
Anyway, sorry for the rambling, but now begins the really difficult time of having an aged parent. I only pray that the remaining time we have with her is a decent quality of life for her and there is not any period of prolonged suffering.
Thank you.
