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Post by theguvnor on Jan 3, 2023 14:27:53 GMT
I believe sadly my father is entering the end of his life. He has refused to eat or drink for the last 36 hours or take his medication and has repeatedly made it clear he believes this is his time to die and he wishes to die and will now die at his own will. I've contacted clergy, family and doctors as this is just ever so slightly stressful.
He will not talk to family members and is ignoring us and ignoring any attempts to talk to him or engage him in any conversation of any kind. When I phoned the doctor as the phone is in the corridor near his bedroom he started shouting suddenly about, 'Wanting to die in his own way' and 'Just let me die, let me die now' as he overheard my call. I've given up trying to argue with him as that is emotionally draining and will from this point simply be praying.
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Post by tisbearself on Jan 3, 2023 14:50:37 GMT
Aww, many prayers for your pa. I'm sorry I will never get the chance to meet him on earth and I hope he meets up with my Irish grandpa Joe in Heaven. I never got to meet Grandpa Joe either as he died between my parents' wedding and the time I was born, so I only know him through the stories my relatives told. But it sounds like he would get on well with your dad.
I well know the strain of dealing with an elderly and unwell but very independent-minded parent living at home.
So I pray for both him and you. And for the priest who has to deal with it as well.
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Post by theguvnor on Jan 3, 2023 16:38:09 GMT
Not much I can really do at this point except let the doctor and priest visit. He doesn't want to talk or take food. He is likely fed up with all the constant surgeries and illness from the last decade or so.
I've let his remaining sister know he may be near the end as well.
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Post by RN69 on Jan 4, 2023 4:26:18 GMT
theguvnor I'm sorry to hear that your father has given up on living and is refusing to sustain himself. It is a difficult circumstance to have to witness in a loved one. Prayers go out to you, your family members and your father. Dear God, we don’t know what time You’ll call Your servant home. Please make this person feel Your presence. Their respiration should be relaxed, and their body should be calmed. Remove all anxiety and cover them in the serenity and comfort that only You can give. I thank You for my father's life and the time that I have been able to share in it with him. Amen.
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Post by jcath on Jan 4, 2023 14:20:26 GMT
Prayers to you and your father. This is tough and as time goes on it might get better. May God watch over you and your father. May you walk strong in Christ. In your name, Jesus amen!
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Post by homeschooldad on Jan 5, 2023 6:36:24 GMT
My family and I walked a similar path a couple of years ago, except that my father did not refuse nourishment, he simply could not take it, aside from liquid nutrition drink, Mountain Dew (for non-American readers, it's a citrus soda), and water. This lasted for over nine months. He was unable to swallow his medicine, so he just quit taking it, again, he wanted to, but it wouldn't go down. Every now and then he would get down a codeine pill out of sheer necessity, but not often, and he did not die addicted to it (wouldn't have been a problem if he had been, it was medically necessary). He always liked to take a drink of bourbon (I still have a part-full bottle of his) and I offered to pour him some, reasoning "he wants it, and what harm could it do?", but my mother feared it would kill him on the spot (I don't think it would have), so we deferred to her.
The end came gently one summer afternoon, after months of steadily declining health and failure to thrive. He did not suffer.
I shall elevate your father in prayer, which is never wasted.
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Post by katy777 on Jan 25, 2023 12:53:51 GMT
Praying for your dad..
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Post by tth1 on Feb 17, 2023 15:03:56 GMT
Praying for your father, you and your family.
Sometimes old people have tired of life and see death as a release.
It is distressing for those of us who have to witness this.
May God bring comfort to you all and may the angels guide your father into heaven. Blessed Mary please give theguvnor and his family the strength and courage to carry them through this distressing time.
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