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Post by jimg on Feb 15, 2021 20:24:54 GMT
On the one hand we worry about a Catholic president of the U.S. who works against Catholic moral principles. But on the other hand there are many Catholics who disregard Church teaching regarding sex and marriage. I came across this article by Rev. Thomas Morrow which explores the problem of the Cohabitation Dillema. www.hprweb.com/2021/01/the-cohabitation-dilemma/ |
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Post by faithhopecharity on Feb 22, 2021 22:43:30 GMT
Sin is widespread, and it's alarming how many people will turn a blind eye to their own sin, Many turn from the faith when cohabitation and premarital sex come into play.
I guess I can see why, in a way. If you honestly can refrain from sex, there would seem, in most people's minds, to be no reason not to live together (I don't agree with that, but I can see the argument). If you don't see the problem with premarital sex, that pretty much makes it impossible to see why cohabitation could be wrong.
Something few people think about is that cohabitation may make it easier for the couple to never marry. An old acquaintance from high school has been engaged to someone for years. No sign of a wedding, but to me, also not a full sign of REAL commitment. Limiting cohabitation helps people avoid the plunge we are called to take in relationships. To go into it 100%.
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Post by katy777 on Feb 23, 2021 0:22:22 GMT
My husband and I have been traveling alot lately looking for a second home to retire to as he works from home.
So my children are alone. My son has a very religious girlfriend who he drives to work, which means driving 20 minutes south . He then drops her off home..and then 40 minutes to his job.
She is invited to sleep in one of my daughters rooms at these times. They are chaperoned by youngest who would tell on them in a minute. Lol..:-O
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Post by adamcsc on Feb 23, 2021 5:47:18 GMT
Not a dilemma for me, I won't do it. I solve this problem by not having a girlfriend.
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Post by tth1 on Feb 23, 2021 15:32:04 GMT
My wife and I did not co-habit prior to marriage. It was much less common then and probably still frowned upon a little by society in general. However, I did not co-habit out of fear of God (I know I should have) but out of fear of my mother! For us it was not an issue and the subject never even cropped up.
My mother's younger sister's eldest son lived in the same house as his fiancee but there was practical need. They had separate rooms and lived with his parents. I can assure you my mother's sister would have prevented any occasion for sin! They lived together in this way because when they became engaged her mother threw her out of her house. This was not because she considered my cousin to be an unsuitable match but because she had expected her only daughter to never marry and stay at home to care for her. She did not need someone to care for her. So my cousin's fiancee lived with them as an alternative to homelessness.
Therefore, there can, at times, be a need for a couple to live in the same dwelling prior to marriage. Of course, it is probably better that they do not live alone or in their own home. Living with others is a much better option. I think it will reduce temptation and should limit any possible scandal.
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Post by farronwolf on Feb 24, 2021 2:34:59 GMT
So if you have one segment of the Church population which believe that abortion is the only issue that matters above all else, no matter what, then it is easy to get to the point you are suggesting that the same segment would not look as harshly on the cohabitation issue.
Since we have just finished an election cycle the "abortion is the only thing that matters" certainly is fresh on everyone's minds.
Some members of the clergy are just as guilty as the laity for how we have gotten to this point as well.
I believe Pope Francis tries to address this when he suggests that too much emphasis may be being placed on abortion. If abortion is the one thing that is in the forefront of people minds, it might just make it a bit easier for them to overlook other serious sins which will just as easily get one sent to hell because there just isn't time to focus on those things when this big elephant in the room is getting all the attention.
None of the sins are acceptable, Francis never says they are.
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