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Post by tisbearself on Aug 7, 2021 18:28:10 GMT
Of course you can talk to deceased loved ones. I talked to my spouse every day for 33 years and my mother at least once a week for my whole life and every day for about 25 years. It's not like I'm going to stop speaking to them just because they died, especially when I have great hope that they are in Heaven and I trust in Jesus to make it so. If God wants them to get the message he'll send it along and if for some reason he doesn't want that, then he'll just listen himself. You may find this pamphlet helpful, I found it in a church after spouse died and I found it very useful. It's by a Dominican. www.catholiceducation.org/en/religion-and-philosophy/spiritual-life/reflections-on-the-death-of-a-loved-one.html
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Post by StellaMaris on Aug 7, 2021 21:44:25 GMT
Yes StellaMaris , I've seen that happen several times as a nurse and I experienced it myself with my Mom. She had end stage CHF and was on Hospice in my home. She had a fairly normal day was aware and alert even after eating a good supper. But later that evening following a phone call from my brother she took a sudden turn for the worse. She continued to struggle to breathe and wasn't responding to the Lasix that I administered per her Drs. advice. Her oxygen wasn't helping her either and her anxiety made her struggle more. The Hospice nurse was on the way as was the Dr who said to give her some of Ativan drops which did help. My daughter was sitting on her left holding her hand and I was on her right stroking her arm telling her to be at peace. We were praying the Divine Mercy Chaplet repeatedly when I could sense she was going by the change in her breathing pattern. Neither the Hospice nurse, her Dr nor the priest made it before her last breath. I think she went quickly because we were with her telling her it was okay to leave and for her to be at peace. Her greatest fear was dying all alone like my father did in a hospital in the middle of the night. My sister had been praying that she go quickly and peacefully and I was praying that she be accompanied to heaven by the Angels. She died on September 29th in a matter of a couple of hours so I feel that both of our prayers were answered. One of my Grief Share sessions provided the following quote as a condolence to those of us on our grief journey. This grief program is Christ based one but not a Catholic Church one but I think the sentiment expressed fits into Catholic teaching. "Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near; still loved, still missed and very dear” – Anonymous I really love that anonymous quote, RN69. Thanks for sharing it. I've sent it to all my siblings on a lovely picture of my Dad. 💕
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Post by homeschooldad on Aug 9, 2021 11:44:07 GMT
As it stands right now, when I address my father, I also ask for him to obtain graces for us --- wouldn't be the first time I've ever "hit him up" for a favor, why stop now? He bailed me out of so many scrapes and youthful indiscretions (though, thankfully, nothing ever involving the legal system), more than any son deserves, and if his generosity extends into the next life, then I'm "in like Flynn".
I can already tell that I'm able to tap into a certain "heightened presence of mind" (I don't have any better words to describe it) to care more effectively and assertively for my mother, I have to take her to the doctor in a bit, and she was always frightened that she'd lose her insurance cards and state ID, which I have here for her. (She's virtually blind, and if she'd misplace them, she'd never find them.) As I once heard a certain now-sedevacantist apologist and lecturer say (who shall remain nameless, he's a personal friend), sometimes God may not give us the graces we need, until we need them, lest we lose them in the meantime. He used the example of Corrie ten Boom (The Hiding Place) not being given her train ticket by her father, until the time came for her actually to use it.
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Post by katy777 on Aug 17, 2021 22:43:38 GMT
I see how much you love your dad, and how much he loves you.
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