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Post by pianistclare on Feb 20, 2017 17:39:09 GMT
With people, policies, odd happenings......(particularly in your parish). Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on.  |
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 20, 2017 17:40:11 GMT
 Anybody have passive aggressive bosses or co-workers? Ours must be the poster children for difficult people. |
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Post by Irishmom on Feb 20, 2017 18:30:17 GMT
I am frustrated that Clare beat me to this thread, lol! Was thinking we needed one of these! You know what they say about great minds, friend!  |
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seosamh
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From County Mayo, married to a pianist! Tá áthas orm buaileadh libh!
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Post by seosamh on Feb 20, 2017 18:51:15 GMT
OK, so spill it gurl!
I want details! Details!!!! LOL
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seosamh
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From County Mayo, married to a pianist! Tá áthas orm buaileadh libh!
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Post by seosamh on Feb 20, 2017 18:51:56 GMT
Joseph's first post!!!!! Welcome!
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Post by Beryllos on Feb 20, 2017 18:55:31 GMT
Welcome!
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Post by Irishmom on Feb 20, 2017 19:09:08 GMT
Joseph's first post!!!!! Welcome! |
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Post by tawny on Feb 20, 2017 19:24:52 GMT
Welcome Joseph. God bless.
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Post by oralabora on Feb 20, 2017 22:43:21 GMT
Anybody have passive aggressive bosses or co-workers? Ours must be the poster children for difficult people. I used to. Left that job 15 years ago, largely because of him and the fact that he was a fixture in the company, and not going anywhere soon. The type of guy who would phone you 5 minutes before quitting time to dump something "urgent" on your lap that could easily have waited until the morning. Then we got "call display" phones and I could tell when he was calling. Straight to voice mail for you Mr. D.! A real nitpicker for legal details too ("company policy", blablabla). Had he been a practicing Catholic, he would have fit in perfectly in the "other place" which likes legalistic nitpickers. I learned a really powerful trick with him though. I called it "upwards delegation". He was such a control freak, and so full of himself, that you could play his ego like a violin. When an unpleasant task landed on my desk, I'd call him up or email him and say "you know you really are the expert on this kind of issue..." and invariably he'd predictably reply "leave it with me". Then I could deflect calls inquiring about progress with the issue to Hisself. Nasty I know. But one does what one has to do to survive. He was a mechanical engineer, and once we were faced with a chemical process problem. We were in a meeting with his boss (who was my former boss... and the best boss I ever had until recently). Like the Mr. Keen that he was he literally jumped up and down waving his hand saying he would tackle the issue. His boss (the department head) had to calm him down by saying "umm, Michel is the chemist, not you, don't you think he should work on it?". Intelligent guy, great engineer, and personable outside of work. But The Worst Boss Ever. Technical competence does not always equal great management skills. Anyway thanks for reminding me why I retired  Actually now I work a day a week at the abbey library. My "boss" is our former oblate director. Now HE is the best boss I ever had. If every company appointed a Benedictine monk to head up the in-Human Resources department, they'd finally become human... |
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 1:38:09 GMT
I envy you.
My boss has perfected the snark. He loves it, finds it great fun.
The rest of us? Not so much.
How is it that these passive aggressive people always end up in a position of power?
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Post by tawny on Feb 21, 2017 2:30:27 GMT
Passive-Agressive personality is the most difficult personality to deal with. They have indeed perfected snarky. I've dealt with a number of them, both male & female. It's all a power struggle.
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 2:35:34 GMT
You'd think people who are attuned to abuse would be aware of mental abuse.
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Post by tawny on Feb 21, 2017 3:13:51 GMT
Unfortunately, some people thrive on it.
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Post by Professor Q on Feb 21, 2017 4:32:32 GMT
OK, so spill it gurl! I want details! Details!!!! LOL Welcome aboard! Well, the biggest frustration in my life has to be our current boss. Ever since he took over, he's been keen on implementing one hare-brained scheme after another, simply according to what grabs his fancy. When said schemes don't work, he calls us all for 2-hour meetings at which we have to listen to him (or his handpicked spokesman) sermonize in a way that would make even St. Leonard of Port Maurice cry "Uncle!" He's even started clipping his moustache and hair to look a bit like a certain Adolf Schicklgruber these days. Make of that what you will!  |
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Post by oralabora on Feb 21, 2017 14:06:00 GMT
OK, so spill it gurl! I want details! Details!!!! LOL Welcome aboard! Well, the biggest frustration in my life has to be our current boss. Ever since he took over, he's been keen on implementing one hare-brained scheme after another, simply according to what grabs his fancy. When said schemes don't work, he calls us all for 2-hour meetings at which we have to listen to him (or his handpicked spokesman) sermonize in a way that would make even St. Leonard of Port Maurice cry "Uncle!" He's even started clipping his moustache and hair to look a bit like a certain Adolf Schicklgruber these days. Make of that what you will! Which reminds me of a great line by a certain William Shirer, author of the Rise and Fall of the Third Reich (and I paraphrase here from a very nearly senile memory...): "Would world history have taken quite the turn it did if the masses were forced to shout 'Heil Schiklgruber'?". |
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Actually now I work a day a week at the abbey library. My "boss" is our former oblate director. Now HE is the best boss I ever had. If every company appointed a Benedictine monk to head up the in-Human Resources department, they'd finally become human...
