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Post by upupandaway on Feb 21, 2017 14:19:48 GMT
Anybody have passive aggressive bosses or co-workers? Nope. I have aggressive-aggressive bosses and co-workers. My relationship with my pastor has calmed down some, but it took nearly four years and much wailing and gnashing of teeth. Looking forward to the secretary's retirement in a few months. She's not a bad person, but it can get tiring having to adjust to her mood swings. Never know which version of her you'll deal with at any given moment...and if she's decided she's going to tear into you no matter what you have or haven't done, there isn't a darn thing you can do about it. The thing you're doing today that isn't okay is the same thing you did yesterday that was perfectly fine and even encouraged. She's been known to withhold info others need to serve and then lay into us for not knowing what to do. She has an excuse for every mistake she makes but everyone else has to be perfect or we get sent to the stockade. Not easy to live with. I'll take a thousand of Fr. B rather than just one of her.
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 14:57:05 GMT
Oh, I know the type. Always superior, always correct and SO dismayed at YOU. yup. Seen it. In the wild. Yes.
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Post by oralabora on Feb 21, 2017 15:07:53 GMT
Anybody have passive aggressive bosses or co-workers? Nope. I have aggressive-aggressive bosses and co-workers. My relationship with my pastor has calmed down some, but it took nearly four years and much wailing and gnashing of teeth. Looking forward to the secretary's retirement in a few months. She's not a bad person, but it can get tiring having to adjust to her mood swings. Never know which version of her you'll deal with at any given moment...and if she's decided she's going to tear into you no matter what you have or haven't done, there isn't a darn thing you can do about it. The thing you're doing today that isn't okay is the same thing you did yesterday that was perfectly fine and even encouraged. She's been known to withhold info others need to serve and then lay into us for not knowing what to do. She has an excuse for every mistake she makes but everyone else has to be perfect or we get sent to the stockade. Not easy to live with. I'll take a thousand of Fr. B rather than just one of her. I had a head honcho of a company I worked for that had weekly management meetings (of which I was one). Every meeting he'd turn is gunsights on a manager and make him or her the punching bag for the meeting. He'd scream obscenities at the poor victim, call call him or her an incompetent fool, pick a mistake made by some obscure underling and pin it on the manager, etc. It was awful. Inevitably my turn came up. One of "my" employees made some minor mistake that cost a bit of money and he ripped into me for inadequate supervision, general incompetence as a manager, not knowing what my employee had for breakfast (in France that would be easy to answer: coffee and a slice of bread...), the works. After his tirade ended with "what do plan to do about it?" I reminded him that in a reorganization he approved a couple of months prior, that employee no longer worked for me and was under another manager's supervision. Touché. It's like when the guy tailgating you for the last 10 km even though you've been going 10 over the limit finally passes you and lands right into a radar trap! A very faith-affirming event!
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 15:25:39 GMT
Reminds me of our own beloved Cardinal Sitzpinkler (look it up "sitzpinkler" )
We need him here. LOL
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Post by oralabora on Feb 21, 2017 15:55:16 GMT
Haha, reminds me of what Navy pilots say about Air Force pilots: Flare to land, you are a sitzpinkler... "flare" is a maneuver while landing whereby you slowly pull up the nose, gently bleed off airspeed, and gently settle down on the main wheels as the aircraft loses flying speed but it generally eats up the first 1000 ft of runway; navy pilots have no such luxury when landing on a short carrier deck; they basically slam the plane onto the deck so that the arrester hook securely catches the arrester cable, otherwise they and the plane are going for a very expensive dip in the ocean. Navy pilots think Air Force pilots are a bunch of wimps.
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 16:29:38 GMT
I always loved watching those aircraft carrier landings.....looks hella risky to me! EEK!
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Post by oneofthewomen on Feb 21, 2017 22:32:03 GMT
OK Clare, you asked for it!! My big pet peeve is parents who want their kids in faith formation/Sacramental prep, but who put forth no effort what-so-ever to see that what I can teach in an hour every other week is reinforced at home, attend Mass or make sure their child is doing what is required if them.
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 22:52:28 GMT
Oh yeah . We just had a woman frantic to get her son in our confirmation Mass because they had a huge conflict with their parishes confirmation Mass.
Prom.
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 21, 2017 22:54:05 GMT
Also the mom whose kid couldn't make any of the prep sessions and said " I pay a lot if money for competitive cheering and you're just refusing to work with me. "
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Post by Irishmom on Feb 21, 2017 23:03:40 GMT
Also the mom whose kid couldn't make any of the prep sessions and said " I pay a lot if money for competitive cheering and you're just refusing to work with me. " Oh yes...you should change the whole schedule and work around that.
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Post by Professor Q on Feb 22, 2017 6:04:52 GMT
OK Clare, you asked for it!! My big pet peeve is parents who want their kids in faith formation/Sacramental prep, but who put forth no effort what-so-ever to see that what I can teach in an hour every other week is reinforced at home, attend Mass or make sure their child is doing what is required if them. Oh dear, tell me about it....it's the reason my mother gave up on that task after one fairly thankless year.
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Post by pianistclare on Feb 22, 2017 13:40:48 GMT
We do have some parents who never miss a class, who really are engaged with their kids, but it is really very few of them. I went to a conference at the Chancery earlier this month, and the person presenting made this statement:
"Today's Catholic parents view Sacramental Prep and Mass going, in general, as more of a family tradition, rather than a duty, a responsibility, or even a necessity. They see it as something they have to participate in so that their mothers and grandmothers are happy. They will do the minimum, so as to keep peace in the family, but they themselves do not share in the desire for good catechesis. They just want to get it over with."
Interesting that all the DRE's in the room nodded furiously. For the last 5 years, I have had at least a couple of sets of parents come up to me at the Confirmation reception and say: Thank you for everything, it was a beautiful Mass....we're just SO happy to be DONE." And these are people whose kids made their Confirmation at 15 yrs and up. I can't imagine what people in Diocese' with the "restored order" must go through. I guess past the 3rd grade they no longer offer catechesis? Who shows up for classes? And does a well intentioned volunteer run the program?
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Post by tawny on Feb 22, 2017 18:22:31 GMT
I just love it when we bust our back teaching the students all year, every year preparing them for reception of the Sacraments and there is absolutely no follow-up for follow-through on the home front. Then when they finally receive the Sacraments the kids or parents are never seen in the Church again.
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Post by upupandaway on Feb 22, 2017 18:52:10 GMT
I have great respect for those involved in sacramental preparation and teaching catechism. I couldn't handle the perpetual frustration. Early on, my pastor floated the idea of teaching catechism by me but ultimately saw I was meant for other responsibilities. Thank goodness for that: from the first moment the idea surfaced, I was like noooooooooooooooo not THAT
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Post by glennonp on Feb 23, 2017 2:56:41 GMT
That has to be incredibly frustrating. I teach a few RCIA classes each year and there is definitely a difference in attitude and effort among the people in the class. Happily, however, I never have to deal with helicopter parents (or at least haven't had to yet). I ask for God's help, do my best, and then turn it over to the Holy Spirit.
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